Accepting yourself as you are is about knowing yourself well. Our society creates an expectation that we fit into certain criteria and are able to perform well in everything. This is unrealistic but it causes many individuals to become insecure and diffident about themselves. Few people can do everything well but have skills and abilities which are valuable.
An aspect of modern life is that we are not expected to say ‘I can do that,’ with confidence or ‘That’s something I find difficult to do’. There is an element of shame about not being able to do something. If we were all able to do everything the world would be a less interesting place. The fact that so many people have different skills, strengths and abilities is what makes the variety appealing. It is a constant stimulus that others have ideas different from our own.
In accepting our limitations it would be sad if we settled for that with no attempt to develop. This can take the form of learning new skills, becoming more confident in dealing with others, establishing new relationships, in fact learning. When we stop learning we stop living.
To know ourselves it is worth considering what our default behavior is. When we are tired how do we react. Do we search out others for the stimulus they offer or do we prefer to retire to a secluded area to refresh ourselves? Do we think about how people react to a suggestion or do we organize something without considering how it will affect others? Is life unbearable when there is disorganization and chaos, or are we content to wait and see how things pan out? These are all vital aspects of understanding ourselves. We can accept that this is how we are. It is neither good nor bad, it just is.
When this is understood, then we have the freedom to become more. If we are sticklers for order, try doing something spontaneously. It will be scary but might have some interesting effects. If we like to plan things regardless of how it affects others, considering the human impact and incorporating it into the idea allows for our development. Each of us has a different approach to living and interacting. For this reason each has something useful to add to the community.
An issue which creates some discord is that society needs order to function and we are taught how to behave. This creates a block for some of us because we are afraid of doing the wrong thing. Knowing ourselves, however, means that we can develop the under functioning parts of us and still fit into our communities.
Accepting Yourself But Daring to Grow
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